(Originally published by OldAuditor on January 11, 2010)
Life can be considered to be a matter of reaching and withdrawing on various matters and dynamics.
A reach is expansion while a withdrawal is contraction. Life at its best is a balance of reaching and withdrawing.
For example, a pleasing conversation is a matter of reaching out and communicating, then withdrawing to allow the other person to reach back with an answer. The pleasure moments that stick in your memory are usually those times when you were in really good communication with someone else.
A stimulating planning or design session involves reaching and withdrawing by all participants. If an equitable balance is maintained by the group leader, everyone involved feels invigorated by the session.
The closeness of a personal relationships is defined by the balance of reaching and withdrawing that exists.
Too much reaching overwhelms others and you will lose your circle of acquaintances. Too little reaching denies you the pleasures of being a group member.
You learn through experience that there is an appropriate balance of reaching and withdrawing in every area of interaction with other lifeforms. Life is best when you set your own balance of reaching and withdrawing on all dynamics.
Contrast this with those times when others prevented you from reaching out to communicate or to contribute. The action of cutting your reach was an effort to diminish you and destroy your effectiveness. It can be done at many levels on the tone scale.
Others can cut your reach by grabbing you by the neck and screaming in your face, as is practiced in the highest levels of the Church of Scientology today.
Physical violence may have been by parents to cut your reach as a child. It is often used in groups that are low on the tone scale.
Ridicule is a way of cutting your reach and is used by those who are afraid to use physical violence on you.
At higher tone levels, you are shushed or told to be quiet so that more important people can speak.
At the highest tone levels, you are acknowledged so thoroughly that you stop reaching because you realize that your reach has succeeded. You got your point across and it’s time to start listening to what is coming your way.
If you are experiencing too many efforts to cut your reach, you need to evaluate the entire scene. Are you stuck on compulsive outflow where you are reaching more than you are withdrawing?
This can creep up on you in a relationship where you are being rebuffed far more than you are being encouraged. It can also be observed when you let your communication go on automatic and you become a bore without realizing it.
On the other hand, if you are being subjected to frequent ridicule, verbal attacks or physical violence, you have probably allowed yourself to slip into some sort of degraded relationship and you need to get help. Staying where you are will result in your becoming physically ill and emotionally damaged.
If you find yourself in this last condition, get some advice from an Independent Scientologist. There are more of them available every month. They can point you to the technology that will help you deal with your situation.
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P. Henry on January 12th, 2010 Edit comment
Old Auditor, very good article! Thank you.
Reach and withdraw is such an incredibly powerful tool. It was a tool that I been using, as was ARC, way before I ever crossed paths with Scientology. But when I got involved in Scn and began to learn the mechanics of R & W and ARC, at that point, those tools became Super Tools!
Around the time I was learning the mechanics of R&W or soon after there was a movie that came out that had a great R&W scene. The movie was The Black Stallion by Francis Ford Copolla. In the beginning of the movie there’s a scene where a young boy and the Black Stallion are marooned on an island and there is this incredible demo of R&W between the boy and the stallion played out on the beach. It was a beautiful scene.
Ummm…I just now had the cognition that where I first discovered the use of R&W was in my own experiences in working with horses.