A Peaceful Reconciliation With a Deceased Spouse

74586-425x283-headstone1I recently participated in an emotionally moving SRT session in which a friend of mine was able to communicate with his deceased wife and handle the upsets he had caused her during their many years of marriage.

She was so grateful for his efforts to clean up their past differences that she was able to discover what she had done on her part to create a relationship in which the differences could not be discussed. So much pent up grief from both sides was released during the session that my friend and I experienced tears of joy that did not end until the very end of the session.

My friend had been receiving Spiritual Rescue Technology sessions for some time and, as a result, he had handled all of the spiritual beings who had been instrumental in making him act in ways that he had come to regret. This meant that he was able to face the future with no risk of repeating the behavior that had made his wife’s life miserable when she was alive.

As a result of the SRT processing he had received, his responsibility level had risen to the point where he now wanted to take responsibility for what he had done to his deceased wife. He felt that if he could communicate with her, he and she could address the issues that had driven them apart for so many years.

In this SRT session, he and his deceased wife were able to speak openly of all of the issues that had come between them. Then we went on to handle a number of spiritual beings who were responsible for instilling certain values in her that were counter-survival.

His wife had been a bright, spiritually aware woman who had the potential to achieve success, but she had a spiritual being with her who was stuck in the beingness of a scullery maid and who was very propitiative toward men. The maid had an affair with the master of the estate and had been discarded when he got bored with her, so after that she was always careful not to rise above her station. This caused my friend’s wife to assume a propitiative attitude which prevented her from acting as his equal, even though he treated her as his equal.

The wife also had another entity who accidentally distracted her and caused her to sustain an injury that affected her for the rest of her life and eventually caused her to become an invalid. When this entity was handled and set free to create a new life, the wife realized that becoming an invalid caused her husband to give her his undivided attention for the last 10 years of her life and she had enjoyed that hold on him.

With this final discovery, the deceased wife and my friend recognized their underlying love for each other and the last of the grief left them.

At this point, I had the unusual experience of experiencing my friends deceased wife looking through my eyes at him and experiencing her fondness for him and her feeling of how proud she was of him.

Her final words indicated she was now free to move on and maybe they could be be in the same space again.

I have helped others talk to deceased family members, but had never helped two beings achieve this degree of closure before.

I would like to do this again.

David St Lawrence

Missionary Syndrome

here-to-save-uA missionary can be defined as a person who is convinced of the superiority of his belief system. The belief system can be Communism, Socialism, Islam, or any of the many varieties of Christianity, or Scientology, or even Spiritual Rescue Technology.

A belief system can be as simple as telling doctors to wash their hands between patients.

I am defining Missionary Syndrome as the inability to recognize the innate value of an existing culture because it lacks the advantages of the missionary’s belief system. Like someone with Asperger’s syndrome, the missionary does not see the target culture as worth something in itself, only as something to be modified. He will have an obsessive focus on getting the culture to accept his belief system as the right way to live.

A dedicated missionary, whether religious or political in nature, wants to introduce a new belief system and in the process, he will inevitably cause a loss of cultural identity whether that is his primary intention or not.

Adoption of any new belief system will introduce a new lifestyle to the people involved and can wipe their culture, their gods, their institutions off the map, and even change their dreams.


They will try to accomplish this in several ways, but normal social resistance through disapproval will not deter the dedicated missionary who knows he has right and possibly God on his side. The missionary is trained to deflect and overcome cultural resistance by persuasion and other non-violent means.

The members of the culture who recognize the danger the new ideas represent to their culture will eventually escalate their resistance to the assimilation of the new ideas and will use increasing levels of force to counter the loss of cultural identity.

When a group loses its culture, it is no longer the same group. Preservation of the group culture is the highest priority of any group that wishes to continue to exist. If the existing culture has enabled the group to survive and expand, any change has the possibility of ending that trend.

Changes that are developed from within the group are not easy to implement, but those are the changes that will be accepted and supported by the group over the long term.

Changes that are enforced on the group by outsiders will be resisted, even if the changes can benefit the group in the long run. The resistance can be sabotage in the beginning and can escalate to murderous slaughter if the missionary efforts are maintained and supported by superior force.

In session after session, I have handled many fine beings who wished to bring enlightenment to primitive or savage societies and ended up being burned at the stake or tortured in some grisly way. Their lament was always the same, “I only wanted to make things better for them!”

They never considered the desires of their audience. They only saw these people as subjects for conversion to a higher truth.

The only way a missionary can be successful is if he can see what the target population WANTS to change and is prepared to deliver this. It is called “finding their ruin” in Scientology and means finding out what the group wants to change. Once you find out what a group WANTS to change, you will probably get cooperation in accomplishing that change.

If you are peddling a “better idea”, you need to do the groundwork to make sure it will not damage what the group considers valuable. If you do that, you will be a teacher and will be welcomed.

If you are trying to be a typical missionary, you will have an uphill battle and may lose everything when you least expect it.

My suggestion? Don’t be a missionary. Be a teacher instead and make sure your subjects want to learn what you are teaching.

David St Lawrence